YOU TOLD ME I WOULD BE “LONELY” IF I DID NOT FIND MY “ONE” BECAUSE I WOULD NOT BE COMPLETE. YOU TOLD ME MY SUCCESS MEAN’T NOTHING AT ALL WITHOUT SOMEONE TO SHARE IT WITH BECAUSE I WOULD NOT BE COMPLETE. YOU TOLD ME I COULD NOT BE HAPPY IF I DID NOT SETTLE DOWN BECAUSE I WOULD NOT BE COMPLETE. ALL THIS TIME YOU WERE INCORRECT BECAUSE WHAT YOU FAILED TO REALIZE WAS THAT I WAS ALREADY COMPLETE AND THAT NO ONE COULD EVER TAKE THAT AWAY FROM ME…
“You don’t need to COMPLETE me, you just need to complement me…”
Those butterflies that fluttered inside of me when I thought of you, those moments when you gazed at me that made me feel like nothing else mattered when you were around me. As cool as I played it off, deep down my heart thumped at the thought of you but as much as I felt warm and fuzzy with you beside me the truth was, you would never complete me as I was already complete.
Why are we made to feel that without that “soul mate” or perfect partner that we will grow old and lonely without THEM. All those romantic movies and that gushy love line made up of these 3 words “YOU COMPLETE ME“? That life would just be miserable without that other person? I’m not taking away from those warm feelings that we get when we are surrounded by that special someone but why does society mold individuals to feel they are incomplete and that their forever happiness is totally dependent off another human being?
Why do we make people feel they are not already COMPLETE as humans therefore we are to seek another to feel COMPLETE. Are we creating individuals to feel more dependent on others for a forever happiness when really we should be be focusing on teaching everyone to LOVE themselves that much more and to fall in love with themselves deeply each day. We should be teaching everyone to build a level of security in one’s self so that YOU can become whole as an individual on your own before you attempt to love another so deeply. For how could you love another so deeply, without being deeply in love with yourself first.
“Your completion as a human is not dependent on another but first and foremost within yourself… ”
I have lost count on the many times I have told myself that I create my own happiness. As humans WE MUST LEARN to first create the happiness within ourselves, to fall in love with ourselves and to ensure our own mind, body and soul feels soothed before we seek that from another.
For every time, you are made to feel you are “different” you are not! For every time you are made to feel bad because you are single, do not because you are making choices to first complete yourself. We truly do pave the foundation of the path to our own happiness. I truly believe that special someone will drop on our path when the universe feels you are ready and once you can turn around and see just how much you are in love with yourself first. Whomever falls on your path should only continue to complement YOU as the STRONG individual you have already created within yourself. You will see just how different your journey will become when you yourself feels complete.
“It is not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and to make your happiness a priority … it is necessary” – Mandy Hale
I can reassure you that absolutely NOTHING is wrong with you if you are not with another. I can promise you that when you spend that much more time focusing on yourself, aligning your path of life and creating your own happiness, you will slowly but surely start “completing” yourself as a person.
When you think of the infinity symbol it contains two semi circles linking together which is exactly how I view partnerships of love. (Ironically enough this topic came up with some brilliant strong ladies over lunch a few days ago)
Each loop representing a human being and their completeness first as individuals. Once whole on their own, they then entwine into each other to complement their growth and become one larger piece forming together stronger in unison! That to me is how love should be, two strong individuals whole as people who love themselves wholeheartedly coming together in an infinite shape creating a never ending loop of strength in this partnership.
Do not ever allow others to make you feel there is a timeline for life or how quickly we must grow as people. Do not ever feel it is wrong to focus on completing and taking care of yourself FIRST before another! Be selfish in every possible way, love yourself every single day and fall more deeply in love with yourself with each waking moment. Sit back, now watch just how miraculously your energy and the universe works because then you will soon see my dear that you were never incomplete…