WHY DO MOST PEOPLE BELIEVE THERE IS THAT “PERFECT RELATIONSHIP”? ARE THESE FALSE EXPECTATIONS WE PLACE ON OURSELVES? IS IT SOMETHING WE HAVE BEEN TOLD? OR IS JUST THE HAPPILY EVER AFTER AND FAIRY TALE THAT WE ALL HOPE FOR?
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen
So many times we all want that “perfect partner“ does that really exist? a perfect person? or what it really falls down on is that “partner that is perfect for YOU” that complements you, that encourages you, that supports you on all levels especially emotionally. Someone you can grow with, someone you learn with and hey sometimes make mistakes with.
That someone who just makes you feel like you are on top of the world, that pedestal, that cloud 9, that feeling that makes you float. Is it a dream? if so I don’t want to wake up. Those texts, those calls, the laughs and yes that voice that no matter at what time of the day or night brings a smile to our face. That smirk, that chuckle, those giggles because at that time, during that moment, that partner you adore, that you cherish, and are in love with makes you feel like nothing else matters and you know what? Nothing else should matter because during that minute and at that that very moment you have found” YOUR PERFECT LOVE“
I WOULD LIKE TO THINK THAT I’VE LEARNED FROM MY MISTAKES BUT THE TRUTH IS I JUST LEARNED TO LOVE MYSELF THAT MUCH MORE.
How many times have you faulted yourself for a failed relationship? How many times did you walk away not thinking you were good enough when that relationship ended. How much more LOVE do you have to give until you lose yourself? The truth? you should never “lose yourself” in ANY relationship. The thing is at times “love is blind“, and we feel we found “our ONE” so we give and give and we give until we have nothing more of ourselves to give. I would be lying to you if I told you I’ve never been in that type of relationship but what I have done was walk away that much more stronger and have learnt from every relationship that I will always know my self worth.
“You need to truly love yourself before you can love others“
Self worth is key. Self love is everything because you will know and realize just what exactly you deserve back in any relationship (this applies to friendships too). Love yourself first and foremost and the UNIVERSE will work in magical ways.
Comfort is a great thing. I mean who doesn’t want to feel like you can be in you PJS all day beside your partner on the couch with no care in the world. However what happens when you become “too comfortable” that you take that person for granted? Aside from any obvious reasons, I believe this too is a big factor in unsuccessful relationships because communication slows down, appreciation is taken for granted and sometimes respect for each other diminishes!
We must never forget why we fell in love with each other and why we decided to enter this relationship together! Forget those hall mark greeting days but we should always show and speak of the appreciation we have for one another. “The smallest things can be the biggest things when shown with love.” You may have “won over” the person you have but never forget how they make you feel and why you fell in love with them to begin with. Keep going on dates but most importantly always respect and never allow the one you fell for to feel they are ever replaceable. “Complacency should not be in our relationships” As I like to say and do, always act and show as if you are on that first date!
“SOULS that resemble ATTRACT inevitably”
“CHEMISTRY is you touching my mind and it setting my BODY on FIRE”
“MISSING someone is part of loving them. If you’re never apart you will never really know how strong your love is“